Professionals sometimes founder as they try to improve their emotional intelligence, because they either don’t know where to focus their efforts or they haven’t understood how to improve these skills on a practical level. If you’re looking to develop particular EI strengths, it helps to consider areas for improvement others have identified along with the goals you want to achieve — and then to actively build habits in those areas rather than simply relying on understanding them conceptually. Three questions can help you on your way: (1) What are the differences between how you see yourself and how others see you? (2) What matters to you? (3) What changes will you make to achieve your goals?